Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy and he was gay. Faced with an Prayers for Bobby and millions of other books are available for site Kindle. Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy and he was gay. Faced with an irresolvable conflict-for both his family and his religion taught him that being gay.. . Start by marking “Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son” as Want to Read: Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy and he was gay. This book tells the story of the Griffith family, or more precisely, the story of Mary Griffith and how she.
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This book illustrates the story of Mary Griffith and her ordeal with her gay son, Robert Warren, known as Bobby. Her Christian. "Prayers for Bobby is essential viewing -- a multi-award winning film you must not miss. This is what Hollywood can do so well when it wishes- to tell a great story. Bobby Griffith (Ryan Kelly, Smallville) was his mother's favorite son, the perfect book by Leroy Aarons, Prayers for Bobby is an inspiring and genuine profile in.
Description Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy As told through Bobby's poignant journal entries and his mother's reminiscences, "Prayers for Bobby" is at once a moving personal story, a true profile in courage, and a call to arms to parents everywhere.
And it will save lives of countless young people A heartrending story of two journeys: Bobby's spiral toward death and Mary's toward personal responsibility. Aarons has performed a major public service, as has the entire Griffith family-especially Bobby, whose death will surely save many others.
Because of Mary Griffith's gutsy sensibility and her tireless efforts to help others " Prayers for Bobby" is a book about hope. Review quote "The value of the Griffith story And it will save lives of countless young people?
This book holds a special place in my heart as it helped me grieve for my departure from the religion I was raised with, to a life built on my own personal strength and will to survive in the face of real adversity. I reco Heartbreaking.
I recommend this to anyone who wants to understand how real and painful words, said and unsaid, can be and how they take their tole. Love, is the answer. Sep 17, Orlando rated it it was amazing. A great look at what happens when a family turns their back on one of their own and how that persons death can reshape and change theirs lives only for the better regardless of the tragedy of Bobby's suicide.
If you are a part of the LGBT community or know someone in it read this book. It will give true insight into how dealing with sexuality affects people. Feb 02, Nolankeeton rated it it was amazing. This book is SO amazing.
It will truly allow many people the ability to accept themselves for who and what they are. May 27, Tym rated it it was amazing Shelves: This story is all too close to my own. Uncomfortably close. I wish my mother would learn from this one. Being raised very strict Mormon and gay my journey in coming out was much the same.
I first got to learn about the tragic story of the Griffith family from the televised adaptation of their story called "Prayers for Bobby" which premiered on Lifetime network in , starring Sigourney Weaver. This movie was based on a book written in by Leroy Aarons, which in turn was based on a true story.
Bobby and his family, including his mother Mary Griffith, lived in a small suburban neighborhood in Walnut Creek, California during 70s and 80s. As a young adult Bobby was coming to te I first got to learn about the tragic story of the Griffith family from the televised adaptation of their story called "Prayers for Bobby" which premiered on Lifetime network in , starring Sigourney Weaver.
As a young adult Bobby was coming to terms with his sexuality, that unfortunately also entailed struggling with feelings of guilt and shame for letting down his family and his faith.
In , being only twenty years old, not able to find love and acceptance from his family nor his religion, Bobby committed suicide by jumping off a highway bridge in Portland, Oregon.
This story is simple, pure, yet extremely important. I have seen the movie several times and each time I see it I cry. Link to the movie YouTube. This book needs to be a must read for every parent out there, regardless of their child's sexuality.
This book teaches parents to love their children more than their ideologies.
While this book has been written in , the high suicide rates among LGBT individuals still has not disappeared. The horrifying statistics of LGBT suicides are left untold, unexamined, and silenced.
It is interesting to note that the majority of countries with the highest rate of youth suicide are also the ones that are the most homophobic.
Link to the WHO statistics. Feb 04, Menglong Youk rated it it was amazing Shelves: Personally, I don't agree with this one at all because most of the times, word violence are millions times worse than physical violence. Since s, her speeches and participations in countless forums and organizations have extended to young American LGBT and other people, especially some ex-homophopes who used to consider homosexuality as abomination.
This book describe her regrets of not only not being there with her son while he was desperately in need, but also disgusting and trying to change her son while there was nothing in him that seemed to be changeable. Another sentence that touches me emotionally is when Mary said that God didn't heal Bobby because there was nothing in him to be healed.
Yes, he was born in that way whether he wanted or not. Why would anyone want to be born differently when they know that they'll suffer from "being themselves" when they are born? Below is speech from Mary Griffith: Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell.
If they wanted to change, they could be healed of their evil ways. If they would turn away from temptation, they could be normal again if only they would try and try harder if it doesn't work. These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay.
When he told me he was homosexual my world fell apart. I did everything I could to cure him of his sickness. Eight months ago my son jumped off a bridge and killed himself. I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and de-humanizing slander.
If I had investigated beyond what I was told, if I had just listened to my son when he poured his heart out to me I would not be standing here today with you filled with regret. I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. In God's eyes kindness and love are what it's all about. I didn't know that each time I echoed eternal damnation for gay people each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children.
His self esteem and sense of worth were being destroyed. And finally his spirit broke beyond repair. It was not God's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass and jumped directly into the path of an eighteen-wheel truck which killed him instantly. Bobby's death was the direct result of his parent's ignorance and fear of the word gay.
He wanted to be a writer. His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were. There are children, like Bobby, sitting in your congregations.
Unknown to you they will be listening as you echo "amen" and that will soon silence their prayers. Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love but your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay, will silence those prayers. So, before you echo "amen" in your home and place of worship. Think and remember a child is listening. Feb 03, Tony rated it it was amazing.
The diaries added more depth to the story, and eased out the job for my lacrimal glands. I shed many a tear. You had your own inner struggle. You overcame ignorance and bigotry.
But your dearest son had to be sacrificed in the process. The speech Mary gave at the council chamber on Monday, February 23, rocked my inner core. Here it is: Because of my own lack of knowledge, I became dependent upon people in the clergy.
I deeply regret my lack of knowledge concerning gay and lesbian people. Had I allowed myself to investigate what I now see as Bible bigotry and diabolical dehumanization slander against our fellow human beings, I would not be looking back for having relinquished my ability to think and reason with other people — people I trust for truth and guidance in my life.
It is obvious to us now why he did not. God is pleased that Bobby had a kind and loving heart. Finally, his spirit broke beyond repair. He could no longer rise above the injustice of it all. Bobby ended his life at twenty.
An injustice has been done not only to Bobby but to his family as well.
Your fear and ignorance of the word gay will soon silence their cries. A child is listening. It is a story about overcoming. Now my reality forms my belief. You are always in my thoughts. With love, Mary Griffith. Nov 07, Janette Ozoa rated it liked it. This was an incredibly impactful book not only because it brings into focus the horrible reality of rejection and discrimination that so many young gay people face, but also because it's a great example of self-imposed ignorance cured and turned into something that has and still does benefit gay people everywhere.
I'm incredibly proud of Mary Griffith for not letting her grief swallow her up and for starting to ask questions and look for answers to things that were not tolerated by her church. S This was an incredibly impactful book not only because it brings into focus the horrible reality of rejection and discrimination that so many young gay people face, but also because it's a great example of self-imposed ignorance cured and turned into something that has and still does benefit gay people everywhere.
She proved that she's a woman of extraordinary strength.
Things about the book that I loved: I really appreciate that the story went beyond the misery of a teenager, although that part is undeniably important to the story as well.
As a reader, it was important for me to see the fruits of Mary's labors, and just how far she went and how much she accomplished exemplified the extent of the transformation of her convictions. Outside the main theme of the book, it was empowering to read about someone who could previously be perceived as weak and unsure transform into a nationally influential figure with self-confidence built from scratch.
Things I didn't like: I wasn't so crazy about the jumping back and forth in the timeline. It was a little distracting at time. A section in the book, I feel is worth highlighting: What the people of Concord do have to fear is their lack of knowledge concerning gay and lesbian people.
When the clergy condemns a homosexual person to hell and eternal damnation, we the congregation echo 'Amen. Had I allowed myself to investigate what I now see as Bible bigotry and diabolical dehumanizing slander against our fellow human beings, I would not be looking back with regret for having relinquished my ability to think and reason with other people--people I trust for truth and guidance in my life.
God did not heal of cure Bobby as he, our family, and clergy believed he should God has never been encumbered by his child's genetically determined sexuality. In God's eyes, kindness and love are what life is all about. I did not know that each time I echoed 'Amen' to eternal damnation, each time I referred to Bobby as sick, perverted, and a danger to our children, his self-esteem and personal worth were being destroyed There are children like Bobby sitting in your congregations.
Unknown to you, they will be listening to your 'Amen's as they silently cry out to God in their hearts. Their cries will go unnoticed for they cannot be heard above your 'Amen's.
Before you echo 'Amen' in your home and place of worship, think and remember. Jun 10, Peggy rated it liked it Shelves: This biography tells the story of Mary Griffith, a mother who felt that her gay son was condemned to hell unless he repented. Through Christian television and other media she was led to believe that prayer would bring "healing" to her son Bobby and that God's power could change him from gay to straight. Eventually, Bobby's pain became too much and he committed suicide.
The book tells how his mother grew to understand how her attitudes contributed to Bobby's lack of self-esteem and his inability This biography tells the story of Mary Griffith, a mother who felt that her gay son was condemned to hell unless he repented.
The book tells how his mother grew to understand how her attitudes contributed to Bobby's lack of self-esteem and his inability to find a place in the world. Griffith became an activist determined to make the world a safer place for gay and lesbian children. She joined PFLAG, demonstrated, spoke at hearings, founded a scholarship in her son's name, spoke on television talk shows, and became a high profile member in the fight against bigotry and against bullying.
One of her projects was to make sure that health issues pertaining to gays and lesbians were included in a school district's health curriculum. Another was to donate books on gay and lesbian subjects to high school libraries, so that questioning students could get accurate information on the topic. Griffith's journey from dependent housewife to outspoken activist is an interesting one, but I found her journey away from religion to be equally as profound.
The time period covered in the book focuses on the late eighties and the nineties, before most mainline denominations started to realize that how the church treated its homosexual members was one of the biggest moral issues of the time. Though Presbyterian, the minister who presided at Bobby's funeral believed homosexuality to be a sin. Griffith understood homophobia to be fed by and encouraged by religion and eventually she simply rejected the church for preaching a falsehood.
This book, first published in , became a film by the same title starring Sigourney Weaver as Mary Griffith. Though the emphasis on specific legislative and other political actions dates the book, I am sure that many youth today are still being hurt by the same forces of ignorance and deliberate misunderstanding that Bobby suffered. Until hate no longer finds cover in religious institutions, young people will continue to kill themselves in despair that they are not worthy of being loved.
Mary Griffith turned grief into energy.
Her story is one of the dominant narratives depicting the terrible impact of homophobia on families. Her message, that a safer society requires equality, acceptance, and love, has increased in strength a hundred-fold since this book was written. Mar 22, Seth Mavigliano rated it it was amazing.
I absolutely hate left-handed people. Honestly, I think they all just do it for attention, if life for a left-hander is so tough they could just get up and change themselves. With a little prayer and help from Jesus they could all grow out of that stupid phase. Bobby grew up in the s in a small conservative christian town plagued with ignorance regarding homosexuality.
This book starts off with the suicide of Bobby Griffith, then switches back and forth in time, clearly and effectively, between the time before and after his suicide. After coming out to his family, Bobby is immediately told that he has to pray the gay away. But his impulses remain and leaves Bobby feeling undesirable and worthless. Living with this despair leads Bobby to commit suicide at only twenty years old.
After her son's suicide, Mary learns a valuable lesson and sets off to change the world. Based off of a real story, Prayers for Bobby is a touching and tear jerking novel. I was inspired to read this book after I watched the movie that it was based off. I would only recommend this to a mature audience who can deal with sensitive topics like homosexuality, suicide, and drugs. After leaving daily journalism in , Aarons began to explore the Griffiths' stories in depth.
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